Quote of the day:
"Well done is better than well said." - Benjamin Franklin
I've always prided myself on having the ability to articulate some of the things that roll around in my mind.
I had a counselor that unintentional fed my ego and smashed it at the same time with a simple statement.
"Dawayne, you have a unique ability of speaking eloquently, with seemingly profound insight. But there is one problem. There is an incongruency with what you say verses what you do."
I had no idea what incongruency meant at the time. (The definition of incongruent is "Not the same, not compatible or out of place." When you take one position on something and then a second later you take a contrary position, is an example of a situation where your statements would be described as incongruent ...")
I knew that what he spoke was truth. No matter how ego shattering it may have been. It stared me in the face saying "don't even try to deny it, even we would know that it would be a lie to deny"
In that moment I realized that I needed to be kind enough to myself to recognizing my own ideals and acknowledge my own faults. And to never try to convince anyone of anything. But to be loving enough to give others the opportunity to come to their own conclusions.
I would much rather hear well done, than well said. And I feel as though people that know me and have seen my growth can vouch for me where this is concerned
Is this selfish? I'm not so sure. But it does allow me the opportunity to Think of "SELF" less.